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OVER-PARENTING

16th Mar 2021 crinamorpho

Here is a definition of overparenting – too much involvement by parents in the lives of their children, so that they try to help with or control everything that happens to the child: over-parenting can lead to anxiety and depression in young people.

Usually, over-parenting happens in families with one child or with the first child when parents are trying desperately to raise a perfect child which eventually will become the perfect adult, which word ”perfect” doesn’t exist!

By the age of 2, some children can read, write, cook, swim, drive, start up a business, and paint the walls not with poo but paint. I am exaggerating and sarcastic now.

Over-parenting or tiger parenting comes in many forms and many actions done by the parents thinking that they are protecting and raising a healthy child, when in fact, they give no chance to that child to decide without their influential. Family Studies has found that over-parented children show less autonomy, competence and ability to relate to others as teens, which can result in depression and decreased overall life satisfaction.

Children deserve a childhood with no unnecessary restrictions from an over-parenting parent!

Relax, take a deep breath and re-think your parenting style!

#children, #copiii, #development, #parenting, educatie parentala, parents and children, parintii

Cum îmi învăț copilul să aprecieze ceea ce are?

12th Mar 202112th Mar 2021 crinamorpho

Cred cu tărie că sunt mulți părinți care au observat la un moment dat cum copilul lor nu apreciază ceea ce au. Cu căt le cumpără și oferă mai multe cu atât disprețuiesc ceea ce au.

Primul pas este chiar acesta, de a conștientiza atitudinea copilului tău și a recunoaște că nu este corectă.

De obicei găsim atitudini nemulțumitoare in familiile cu o stare financiară peste medie, părinții care oferă totul pe tavă copiilor lor fără a-i învăța arta aprecierii.

Cum putem schimba situatia?

Tu ești modelul copilului. Folosește cât mai des ”MULȚUMESC, TE ROG”.
Comunicarea ( în funcție de vârstă) ieri ai cumpărat o jucărie scumpă, azi îți cere una, tu ce faci îi cumperi sau comunici cu el/ea situația? Cumpărând ceea ce vrea copilul la fiecare reclamă văzută, sau shopping nu facem decât să instalăm disprețuirea față de valoarea lucrurilor deja avute. Oricum copilul se plictisește de jucărie cam după 10 minute, și apoi se pune praful pe ia.
Vorbim copiilor despre empatie, mulțumire, dărnicie, generozitate și le amintim cu unii copii nu au aproape ce mânca iar ei au totul în fiecare zi.
Fiți confidenți în a spune ”NU” copiilor. Ei vor cere jucării, bomboane, jocuri video, poate la fiecare oră vin cu cereri crezând că li se cuvine totul și orice dorință li se împlinește ca atunci când lui Aladdin i se îndeplinea orice dorință de către Duhul din lampă. DAR ce se va întâmpla peste 20 de ani când copilul acum adult înfruntă realitatea din societate? Aaaa am înțeles, o să fie CEO la firma familiei, dar care o să-i fie atitudinea față de bieți angajații?

Un copil mulțumitor și plin de bunătate va fi un adult responsabil și plin de generozitate!

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HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY!

8th Mar 2021 crinamorpho

Beautiful souls, amazing and wonderful women, you are precious!
We are precious every day, hour, minute and second.
Reading through thehistory of women’s day, I have noticed the greatest courage, determination, beautiful faces fighting together for their rights, our future.
Here are some bible verses for you. Be wise. Be smart.
The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things.
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.

#children, #copiii, #dad, #development

Teaching kindness to children

7th Mar 2021 crinamorpho

To the world, you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. ― Dr Seuss

Many parents are wondering when should I teach kindness to my child?

Well, do not forget that the child is imitating you and you are his/her role model at least in the early years.

“We can’t control their behaviour, but we can look for ways to demonstrate kind behaviour ourselves.”

Fortunately, kids are eager to copy us from a young age, so you can model kindness from the time they’re babies. “After all, you want your 18-month-old to imitate hugging someone. As they get older, your kids will watch how you treat people, from subtle interactions, such as putting your phone down to make eye contact and say thank you, to more tangible acts of kindness, like inviting a lonely person to share a holiday, bringing a meal to a sick neighbour, comforting the bereaved, and donating time and money to take care of people in need.

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1st Mar 2021 crinamorpho

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Busy bee

22nd Feb 2021 crinamorpho

I won’t be around for a little while because I am working on a children’s book!!!
I had this sentence on my to-do list for quite a while, ”write a children’s book, Crina”!
But all the time was something else coming my way that stopped me. Finally, this should be a perfect time, and I do not care what’s coming next. I am gonna finish the book this year.

I love children with all my heart. I want them to enjoy, to smile while reading the book written by me.
The process’s quite difficult and takes time, but I hope until the end of July to have it published.
If you are a parent, please comment down below what is your child/ren favourite book.

I can’t wait to share with you the BIG NEWS one day. Keep me in yor thoughts, prayers.And I appreciate any suppoort!

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Changing a future

19th Feb 2021 crinamorpho

5 little children from Romania live in poverty. They never had their own house.

The children and a single Mom are living in a tiny room with no electricity or running water. The room is not even theirs, it is Mom’s boyfriends. He is aggressive with the children and kicks them out at least once a month.

A small house will solve all their problems. No more trauma for the kids, they will go to school and have a stable place to live.

Please, share or help if you can.

Donate here : PayPal: mondoc.crina12@yahoo.com

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Emotional intelligence for children

17th Feb 2021 crinamorpho

Do you let your children express their feelings, or you ask them not to cry and go to their room?

Are you supporting the child to express those feelings, emphasise with an angry, frustrated, happy, sad child?

”If we were told from the beginning that childhood defines adult mental health, we would take care to be more loving of a child’s soul”.

I think most of our parents would relate to this sentence.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to be smart about managing your emotions.

E.I describes someone’s ability to express his or her emotions appropriately, to correctly interpret other people’s emotions, and to understand the triggers and outcomes of certain emotions.

From the age of two, your child should be able to show affection, you might see three years old comforting an upset child, they five hugs or a toy. They are capable of understanding the feeling of others. There are thousands of ideas on how to teach your child about emotions ( use cards, be a role model, and other technics like “bubble breaths”).

Imagine you are a 5 y.o and you playing with Legos, building a house, and someone comes and is destroying your work, what do you do next as a child?

But what would a parent that knows the importance of E.I in early childhood? Most probably will come to you and let you communicate your feelings, talk with you about understanding others, compassion, and support you in building the new house of Legos

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”Tell me about yourself”

12th Feb 2021 crinamorpho

I am unemployed since December 2020. I resigned from a job I had in childcare. I thought what’s wrong in wanting to do what you truly love and have been studied for

Well, during these difficult times, here I am 2 months later still on hunting. I had lots of interviews, but it was a waste of time!

Why? because the employers receive hundreds of applications and they do not even look at your CV, they just call you on ZOOM and ask you some questions (I hate the question tell me about yourself’) and then they send or call to say that unfortunately… you know the rest of it. The companies, employers are affording to do it, there is a lot of people to choose from.

It’s quite a struggle to get a job if you do not have experience in the field for at least 2 years. You see the job of your dream, you graduated in that sector but they are not choosing you because they want at least 3 years experience. The list of ” skills, knowledge, abilities, experience is growing, at least 2 pages of requirements. Now tell me, how can a 25-year-old get a job?

A few hours ago a company sent me an application form to fill out for a job position they have, the application had 7 pages but not only this struggle, on the 5th page they ask some terrible personal questions like ”Please tell us about your background, including details of the family you grew up in, your memories of childhood (good and bad), what sort of things did you/do you enjoy doing with your family? How would you describe your general outlook on life?

I find these questions stupid, irrelevant to ask a person.
What’s next, what you ate last night, how many days a week you take a shower, tell me about your first boyfriend, have you kissed or…

I am very disappointed by some people that you would expect more from them. I am frustrated by this system of recruiting!

Do the politicians know, have they any idea of how hard it is for the young persons to get the job they were trained for it? I know the economy is not good at all, the foundation is built on quicksand, not on hard rock. We are in lockdown since December, people are standing in ques at the food bank.

Something must be done, dear politicians with superpower!

Are we wondering why are there a lot of people unemployed? well, the answer might be around here. Let’s pray for a better future, bright minds and kind people.

People, if you can, work for your own idea, dream, not for someone else’s. Start your own business, employ the young persons, give chances and train with kindness your employees.

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Happy birthday to my husband!

11th Feb 2021 crinamorpho

Today, my husband is celebrating his b-day. For the first time as a married man!
Daniel is such a great person and a hard-working, ambitious man.
In the UK, we are still in national lockdown, that means we have to stay at home, without friends invited over, or a special dinner out. Hope this world will heal this year.
Have a lovely and blessed year of your life, husband!

#children, #copiii, #development

Parent-Child Attachment

9th Feb 2021 crinamorpho

Attachment is one specific aspect of the relationship between a child and a parent where the child should feel safe, secure, protected.
Children first form attachments to their primary caregivers in infancy but continue to need attachment figures across childhood and adolescence.
Parents who do a good job of listening to their child, create more confident children, who will openly vocalize their needs.
The attachment theory describes very well the connection between a child and the parents or their careers.

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Atenție mare la jucăriile minuscule pe care le oferiți copiilor!

6th Feb 2021 crinamorpho

Am citit o știre foarte tristă azi. Un copil de 5 ani din Romania a făcut stop

cardio-respirator după ce a înghițit jucăria din oul de ciocolată Kinder.

În anul 2016, o fetiță de 3 ani din Franța a murit după ce s-a înecat cu plasticul din oul Kinder. Din nou, în anul 2000 mai mulți părinții din UK au făcut o petiție prin care cereau ca oul Kinder să fie interzis în UE, dar se pare că s-a refuzat această dorință a părințiilor, din păcate.

În USA sunt interzise din 1938 deoarece nu se permite introducerea unor obiecte non-nutritive în dulciuri.

În Chile oul cu surprize și Happy Meal sunt interzise. Ei vor copii sănătoși, mâncare sănătoasă fără a da obezitate copiilor.

Dacă cumpăram acest ou de ciocolată, ar trebui să ținem cont de jucăria minusculă care ar putea oricând să fie înghițită de copil, accidental sau din pură curiozitate o pune în guriță. Eu vă recomand să renunțați la acest ou cu surprize căruia nu-i văd nici-o parte benefică, plus jucărioara este din plastic, se rupe rapid, nu are calitate, e minusculă și plus copilul se plictisește de jucărie în mai puțin de 5 min, vă garantez.

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