PSALM 51:10 – Create in me a pure heart o God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
What is gold?
Gold – a precious metallic element, highly malleable and ductile, and not subject to oxidation or corrosion.
We using the expression ” he/she has a heart of gold” which means that we want to point out what a good person someone is. It is a strong compliment with a very positive connotation. It comes from the idea of gold being a precious metal that is highly valued. The use of this idiom dates back at least to the 1400.
In the bible the word heart is mentioned 752 times. In genesis 6:6 says ” And the Lord regretted that He had made man on the earth, and it grieved him to his heart”. This shown that God feels emotions, our hearts are abundance of emotions.
What is grace, and how we can give grace to children?
GRACE – receiving a blessing you didn’t earn and don’t deserve
I love the meaning of God’s grace- We deserved punishment but God offered us grace, mercy. He gave His son for us at the cross.
Ephesians 2:8-9
I think a parent gives the children grace after grace everyday. Just think about it (if you have a child), let’s say the child broke a vase, would you scream and punish your kid? No, instead you give forgiveness and love, using nice words with your kid. This is grace. If you want the child to have mercy and to learn the grace of God, show it to them, usually kids learn by observing, kids are very much like sponges, soaking up the experiences they have each and every day.
Here are some ideas/activities for the parents to do with their kiddos.
Teach them about the grace – Read a bible story, for example the the story of prodigal son.
Show them grace – try to understand the reasons behind the actions. Be there, the children needs parents presence, talk with them, love them unconditionally, teach them the right from bad
Talking with kids about grace is so important and wise. Just imagine when that child will grow up, he/she will offer grace to other people, they will be kind, ready to forgive, compassionate and ready to help.
I studied social work and I remember the teachers talking about the types of parenting, also recently I have done some online courses about childcare, briefly these types were mentioned.
What are they and how they are affecting the children?
Most probably if you are a parent, you can identify your style, or if you are not a parent, like me, we can identify our parents style. Parenting style has a big impact in child life.
Authoritarian– STRICT, this style is about being strict, it’s about the rules. Parents with an authoritarian style have very high expectations of their children, yet provide very little in the way of feedback. If a child does mistakes, most probably they will be punished and sometimes the authoritarian tends to abuse the child in a physical way.
characteristics of authoritarian parents:
They have little to no patience for misbehaviour. Authoritarian parents expect their children to simply know better than to engage in undesirable behaviour.
They don’t give children choices or options
They don’t express much warmth or nurturing
The children of authoritarian parents tend to exhibit these effects:
They associate obedience with love
Some children display aggressive behaviour outside.
Some children may act shy around others
Children often have lower self-esteem.
Permissive Parenting – Avoids confrontation, they wanna be friend instead of parent, they use rewards or a bribe in order to get the child to do what they wanna do. They rarely discipline their child, there are no rules to follow. Instead of setting rules, they try to prevent problems from happening, they choose to let their child to figure things out for themselves.
Characteristics of permissive parenting:
Emphasise their children’s freedom rather than responsibility
Ask their children’s opinions on major decisions
Are usually very loving towards their kids.
The children of permissive parents tend to exhibit these effects:
poor academic performance and behavioral problems.
Display more aggression and less emotional understanding
they lack motivation, discipline. Also the kids are more likely to engage in underage alcohol, smoking use.
Authoritative Parenting – This type has high standards, expectations. But is balanced with respect, warmth, encourage independence. They are responsive to the child’s emotional needs while having high standard. They might set limits, rules and are very consistent in enforcing boundaries. This Type has been shown to be the best way in treating and raising your child because it leads to the best outcomes in child like better social skills, emotional health, the kid is more secure and attached to their parents.
Characteristics of authoritative parenting:
Leads to development of a cooperative/friendly structure where the child’s spontaneous initiations is encouraged.
They encourage, support, and are sensitive to needs
Creates family unity through compassion, inclusion and respect.
Gives child plenty of affection which result in a sociably child, happy and ready to recognise peoples emotions and also to help them.
The children of authoritative parents tend to exhibit these effects:
Compassionate with others
happy, loving and caring person
Trustworthy, respectful
Confident in abilities. Capable and involved.
Uninvolved/Neglectful parenting – This type is the most harmful of all. Unfortunately because of circumstances in their life, like divorce, drugs, poverty, or sometimes just because they chose to. Sometimes dads can have this style when they do not have a presence in their child’s life, and this can be really damaging. I am praying to God for the children with this type pf parenting.
Characteristics of neglectful parenting:
No affection or guidance given to the child
Likely a substance abuser
Lacks emotional attachment to child
Don’t attend school events and parent-teacher conference
Offer little or no supervision
Do not plan children’s education, future.
Do not care about the child needs
Usually are not interested of sending kids to extracurricular activities.
The children of neglectful/uninvolved parents tend to exhibit these effects:
Low self-esteem, self-reliant. Forced to act mature even though he/she is a child.
Depressed, sad, lonely
No emotional connection between parent and child
The have a hard time forming relationships with other people.
Jesus once was a kid, He was born into this world.
1st verse: Colossians 3:20
“Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.”
2. Proverbs 13:24
“Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”
Parents who choose to care for and discipline their children truly love them and wants the best for them.
3. Proverbs 1:8-9
“Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.”
It’s so beautiful and amazing yo have a Mom and a Dad, and they to teach you right!
4. Matthew 18:2-4
“And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them 3 and said, ‘Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.'”
to have eternal life with God, we must think like children. Be humble, believe, have faith!
5. Mark 9:36-37
“And he took a child and put him in the midst of them, and taking him in his arms, he said to them, ‘Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me, receives not me but him who sent me.’
Children are gifts from God himself. We should cherish and care for them as best as we can.
6. Exodus 20:12
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”
7. Mattew 19:14
“Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”
Copiii au fost mereu parte din viața mea, dar munca cu ei a început pe când aveam 5-6 ani, atunci s-a născut unul dintre frații mei, care sunt mulți la număr. No de atunci am fost dădacă, soră, prietenă, mami numarul 2.
Munca cu contract, plătită, am început la vârsta de 19 ani, eram babysitter pentru un băiețel de 1 an jumate.
De atunci am avut doar job-uri în domeniul educației, asistent social, mentor, voluntar la spitalul de copii.
Dar mereu am iubit bebelușii, iubesc să-i văd crescând, făcând primii pași, etc.
Am ajuns în Londra pe 6.10.2018, am fost timp de un 11 luni AU PAIR, pentru un băiețel de 5 ani, iar în prezent lucrez ca educatoare la o grădiniță unde avem copii cu vârste cuprinse între (10 luni-2 ani). Acolo sunt 2 bebeii, ambii de 12 luni, și ambii sunt în grija mea, cum se zice aici sunt their key worker. Practic sunt responsabilă de dezvoltarea, îngrijirea și oferirea de oportunități de calitate în funcție de nevoile lor.
Așadar, de când muncesc în Londra, sunt în continuie învățare pe partea de dezvoltare, îngrijire, educație a copiilor.
Astăzi vreau să împărtășesc cu voi din cursul”de ce mușcă copiii”
Copiii încep să experimenteze mușcatul în jurul vârstei de 1 an, și se opresc, cel mai probabil la 3 ani.
În primul rând trebuie să înțelegem faptul că a mușca este parte din dezvoltarea lor. Atunci când copilul mușcă el știe, se așteaptă la o reacție înapoi, fie de la părinte ori copilul mușcat.
Copiii de multe ori găsesc comunicarea verbală dificilă, prin urmarea comunicare verbală dificilă=mușcătură.
MOTIVE
1.Frustrea de a comunica
Dacă ei nu pot acapara atenția unui copil,, sau acel copil se compoarta într-un fel ne dorit de celalat copil, cel mai probil copilul nostru îl va mușca.
2. Stare de anxietate
Dacă un copil este îngrijorat de ceva, atunci prin mușcătură copilul se eliberează de acel sentiment.
3.Foamea și oboseala
Dacă îi este foame și se simte obosit, uneori aceste doua duc la a mușca din frustrare.
4. Dentiția
Dentiția sau durerea de dinșișori poate cauza durere și discomfort, prin a mușca ceva sau a aplica presiune pe gingii poate reduce din durere. prin urmare se recurge la mușcătură.
5. Caută atenție din partea adulților
Prin faptul că mușcă, primește atenție din partea tuturor care sunt în jur, de la adulții terifiați, la copii șocați.
Unii copii doar vor atenție, fie că o vor câștiga în mod negativ sau pozitiv. Mușcătura serveste scpoul.
Sunt încă multe motive. Dar haideți să vedem cum putem intervenii, înțelege copilul care recurge la mușcături.
Învățându-i că este greșit: Când copilul a recurs la mușcătură, folosește cuvinte simple dar solide, încercă ”asta e o mușcătura, e gresit”, sau ”NU”. Dacă vă aflați într-un grup, luați copilul deoparte și vorbiți cu el despre situația creată, explicați-i că îi poate rănii pe ceilalți, și de ce nu îti place ca el să facă asta.
Ocupă-i timpul cu o carte, jucărie sau activitate iubită de el/ea – Scopul este de a reduce tensiunea și dea schimba atenția copilului.
Învățându-i să împărțească – Luați un timer pentru a da copiilor o imagine vizuală despre timp, setași un timp și comunicați cu copilul căt timp are pentru a se juca cu acea jucărioară, asta dacă aveși mai mulți copii, sau vă aflați într-o grădiniță, școală. De obicei este nevoie să setăm timp pentru aceea jucărie populare ce o vor toți, așadar dămoportunitatea tuturor copiilor de a se bucura de jucărie. A împărți este cea mai comună cauză ce declanșează mușcăturile. Un sfat, mereu luați 2 sau mai multe exemple de aceeași jucărie dacă lucrați într-o grădiniță, astfel nu se creează discomfort, plânsete, supărare între ei.
Dacă bebelușul a început perioada de dentiție, cel mai benefic este să-i cumpărați jucării pentru dentiție, seara o puteți depozita în frigider ca mai apoi în timpul zilei să-o oferiți rece (nu înghețată), deoarece rece alină din discomfort.
Vă rog să îmi scrieți în comentarii, dacă a trecut copilul Dumneavoastră prin această perioadă, și cum v-ați simțit, gestionat situația?
I have to admit that first time I heard and learn this word was in my first year of University, while I studied social work.
I think is something amazing and kind to have empathy.
The standard definition for empathy is – ”Empathy is the ability to understand and appreciate another person’s feelings and experience”.
Empathy seems to have deep roots in our brains and bodies, and in our evolutionary history. Elementary forms of empathy have been observed in our primate relatives, in dogs, and even in rats.
So now, in my perspective empathy refers more generally to the ability of feeling the emotions of another person, but nor the desire to help.
COMPASSION!
What is compassion? Compassion motivates people to go out of their way to help the physical, mental, or emotional pains of another and themselves. This means to suffer together!
Compassion is being aware of others needs or interests and acting to help them. Being genuinely concerned for the welfare of others.
Like the bible verse says ”Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience, Colossians 3:12”.
Compassionate people usually display the following behaviours:
They are receptive to the demands of other and even anticipate them
They have good thoughts about others
They treat people well and do not expect a reward
Kind and helpful with the people around them
I love the word of compassion, wasn’t God compassionate with us? He was and He is!
He saw the suffering and He gave his only son for us. This is true love!
There really is no better declaration of compassion than the one Jesus made on the cross.
In Matthew 9:36 – When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like a sheep without a shepherd.
Jesus sees the needs and acts.
There are so many needs in world, we all experienced to be asked for money by kids, adults in the streets, well I do not encourage to give money, giving money means you encourage the person to beg and to continue doing it. But what if instead of giving money teach them how to earn money?
”Give someone a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime”.
What I want to do is to help children continue going to school, build houses for poor families, invlving them in community work, helping each others is compassion!
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FAITH- To have faith in someone or something is like we can rest and trust in someone or something.
Do we have doubts about the person we trust?
Well, depends, isn’t it?
Having faith in people is good. Myself for example, I had a lot of faith and trust in some people while enrolling to High School. I had started a new chapter in my life with the left foot, my parents decided to divorce, dad became an alcoholic and lived on the streets. So I had to move to dorm in college and have faith in some people I knew, they told me they will support, help and encourage me during my 4 years of college. This is trust and faith.
Through these years my faith wasn’t wrong, these people helped me out and I finished the college.
Faith in God is different than faith in people. If we have faith in is amazing and trusting. Romans 10:17 ”Faith in God is trust HIM, based on a true understanding of who He is.
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LOVE – Such a strong word, I LOVE the word of love. God loves us with unconditional LOVE. For God doesn’t matter your sins, your past, He just LOVES us.
He loves us and we also love Him and the people around us. Love each other as I have loved you, John 15:12.
Now, I love kids, babies,my siblings,my future husband an so on.
Also I love poor children, I love seeing their innocent smile. Because I care about them, and I understand their needs, I want to sustain their education, often poor kids drop out of school. Poverty is the main reason.
God says to love people and do good for them, we do not want to discriminate based on religion, age, race, gender. Love is care.
HOPE- Amazing word. Hope is a fundamental component of the life of the righteous.
Bible verses about hope:
Romans 8:24-25, Hebrew 11:1
HOPE IS WHAT WE BELIEVE IN AND CANNOT BE SEEN,LIKE GOD. WE have hope he is there, we believe and know in our hearts.
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Our life sometimes can be stressful, full of problems, concerns, you name it…
Not knowing what is next in your life, can be so discouraging. Many people develops a form of anxiety which later one takes the form of depression. We are dealing with uncertainty during this Corona virus pandemic, we can’t control many things these days, not knowing what tomorrow brings can leave us powerless over the direction of our life.
We are people, human being so we like to feel safe and to have a sense of control in our lives.
I think 4 or 5 years ago, I felt anxious and had a lot of problems to solve in my life. I remember going to church to hear the message but it didn’t help, I was encouraged for 2, 3 hours and then back to sadness again.
One day my aunt came from Italy and ask me for a favour, to go with her to the passport service in town. I went with her and while I was waiting for her, a little girl came to me and took my hand and asked me ”how are you”? I told her I am fine, then I asked for her name, she said ”NARCISA” then she gave me a hug. I was about to cry, like that kid just came to me and gave me a hug, not even knowing me. My heart needed that encouragement. I felt like all my sadness went away and gave me a purpose in life, to see the life different. This little girl and her family looked so poor, with some dirty clothes but their little girl heart was gold. This gave me much more courage to finish my social work studies and to help people like them. In 2017 I finished my studies.
When you feel uncertain, anxious, discouraged in your heart, God sends you someone to hug you, just receive and open your eyes to see the people around you, the ones which are ready to help you out!
We need encouragement in our lives, we need people to show us affection and care.
We can encourage others too, be nice and kind to people!
During this time of lock down we spend our time at home with the FAMILY! While staying at home and practising social distancing outdoor, clearly we spend most of the time inside. So for those with kids in home I prepared 7 examples of activities to enjoy/to do with your kids.
I work in a nursery since last year, here in London, I have noticed kids love to play in their own way with toys, and they can make have fun with an object we can’t even think about e.g. a broom and/or dust pan.
i encourage you to get involved in kids play, if you have a baby is so important to interact with the baby. You can interact by playing, speaking, singing, making funny faces. There is a term ”serve-return” which means the back and forth interactions between a parent and a child.
Here are some activities to enjoy with your precious children
Baking time- Baking with your children is amazing. Now depends on the age of you kid/kids. It can turn in a messy play, a wonderful discussion between you and your child. Also baking enhances fine motor skills, teaches life skills, increases Math ability, and so on.
2. Join online courses about what your kid is interesting in, this depend on your kid age. Science courses are amazing and really interested, you can assist the child while trying the experiments.
3. Rice Play – is so much fun! In a tray add some plain rice or coloured with food colouring, add spoons, pots, cups and let the baby enjoy this sensory play.
4. Board games – These are for the older kids.The games develop cognitive skills in children
5. Garden time – if you have a garden, you are lucky, if not take the kids and go to the park (if your country allows you). Outdoor activities are refreshing, gives energy. Now is the moment to teach your child how to ride the bike.
6.Cinema time – Choose together a movie to watch, some popcorn and fresh juice ? You can learn the kid how to make fresh juice.
7. Household chores – great idea! and no, you do not have to pay your kids for doing it! This activity is for older children, maybe over 7 y.o. They can clean their own room, fold laundry, clean bathroom, wash windows, etc.
We are born sinners, we live a life of sinners, until we met HIM and we realise that Jesus actually died for us and washed away our sins. And all He wants in return is to believe.
I lived 15 years not knowing Jesus, not knowing that he have done so much more me.
I became a Jesus follower when I was 15 years old, Someone took me to an amazing Church called Greater Grace Brasov. There I’ve received God in my heart and I accepted him like my saviour!
Accepting him, I’ve received eternal life, I know I am going to heaven when my body dies.
BUT I AM FORGIVEN BY THE GRACE OF GOD!
1 John 1:9 says ”If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”.
Unconditional love, God let his son to die on earth for our sins, isn’t this amazing and unconditional love?
I am forgiven, but doesn’t mean I do not sin anymore, I do, because I still have my own nature which wants to her own will, we are tempted and live in our flesh. But having Holy Spirit is something that reminds me that I am forgiven and I have to go back to God and pray, stay in silence and listen to his words! And he is so GOOD to me.
Even though we are forgiven doesn’t mean that we can sin every day knowing He died for our sins, no, is not about this!
Believe in God, have faith, read the bible and know that you are FORGIVEN!
JOHN 3:16
Traducere în română
SUNT IERTAT
Da, sunt liberă de păcat!
Suntem născuți păcătoși, trăim o viață de păcătoși, și asta până când îl întâlnim pe Isus, și realizăm că Isus a murit pentru noi, pentru păcatele noastre. Și tot ceea ce vrea Isus în schimb, este să avem credință în El, să credem!
Eu am trăit 15 ani făra să-L cunosc pe Isus, fără să știu ce a făcut El pentru mine.
Când aveam 15 ani, cineva m-a luat într-o duminică dimineața la Biserică, așa am cunoscut Biserica Mărețul Har Brașov. Acolo am cunoscut cuvântul lui Isus, am fost botezată în 2015, și mai mult mi-am dat seama de iertarea primită de la Dumnezeu.
De asemenea, L-am acceptat pe Isus ca salvator al meu, acceptandul-L am primit viața veșnică, când corpul meu va murii, eu știu ca voi ajunge în rai.
DAR CEL MAI IMPORTANT SUNT IERTATĂ!
În 1 Ioan1:9 este scris: ”Dacă ne mărturisim păcatele, El este credincios și drept ca să ne ierte păcatele și să necurățească de orice nelegiuire’‘.
Iubire necondiționată, Dumnezeu și-a lăsat fiul să moară pentru păcatele noastre, pentru a ne salva pe noi de la Iad, așadar oricine crede in El, și își mărturiseșete păcatul va primi viața veșnică în Rai. Nu este asta iubire necondiționată din partea lui Dumnezeu?
Eu sunt iertată dar asta nu înseamnă că pot păcătuii în fiecare zi, gândindu-mă că Isus a murit pentru păcatele mele, nu așa funcționează.
Odată ce devii creștin, spălat de păcate, tot mai avem în noi firea veche păcătoasă, cea care încă are pofte, ne tentează și vrea să trăiască fără Isus, dar având Duhul Sfânt în noi ( și Duhul Sfânt nu este nimic magic, nu vorbim în limbi, etc) dar este ceva ce ne amintește de viața cu Isus, ca suntem iertați și orice păcat facem să mergem la Isus și El este vrednic și credincios să ne ierte și să ne dea o viață plină de bucurie, pace, în momentele noastre de tristețe.
Să avem credință, bucurie în Isus, știind că suntem iertați!
Few years ago, Lady N had so much sadness in her heart that every day and night she planned her suicidal note for the one, two people still believing, loving her. For about a month she could not see the light at the end of the tunnel. Her sadness turned into depression. Being depressed is the worst nightmare. Nobody can take the depression away, is just between you and GOD.
Sadness is a normal human emotion that everyone feels once in a while. Like I said, sadness is a reaction to a loss, disappointment, problems in your family, financial struggle, a sick kid, etc. But the depression is a mental health that affects all your life aspects, is much deeper.
How can we involve God, when we are sad, depressed?
The Lady in our example, gave us her story.
”I was going through so much in my life back then, family issues, financial broken, my job offered me a low income, I had to study and to work, and the love chapter was there but not really, actually I felt unloved and I had no one to listen to me or support me, there was a lot of fake people in my life, and still they are.
I was a Christian, went to Church every week, listen to God’s word, but still my heart was not fulfilled. I knew something was missing from my life, I was looking at the people around me they looked happy, they had a nice family, a house, stability. And I had nothing, no plans for the future, no stability. My syptoms were
I could not focus on my every day tasks
Want to sleep all day long
I could barely get out of my bed and dress myself in the morning
No smile on my face all day long
And suicidal thoughts in my head. Actually I took some piles, I was so sick that day.
All this lasted for about 1 month. And then I talked with God, please help your child, you say in the bible that you will not give us more than we can handle, help me overcome this situation, and give me peace, love and wisdom.
I prayed and waited in silence for Him to give me Joy, and healing. Every day I prayed, and tried to work even though my mind said no. After a while I saw my life took a right turned, someone offered me a better pay job, and every little thing gave me confidence. A year later my life is totally changed, my faith is restored and I learnt to trust HIM again. I have a lot of joy, peace and learnt from my mistakes”.
I know is not easy to overcome depression, sadness, but try to speak with Him, read your bible, ask your Pastor, and write down all your thoughts and then find a solution for every thought/problem. It will help a lot.
Just think that you are not alone, you still have 1-2 people believing, loving you, ask for help.
In our life we going through a lot of sadness, anxiety and sometimes depression, in those moments how important is our life, we have value, all our problems are temporarily, be patient, have faith, surround yourself with wise people.
Today, some people are celebrating the Easter, I wish them a blessed Easter! May god give you joy, hope from his abundance!
I will celebrate the Easter next week, because we follow the Orthodox Church, which they follow the Julian calendar. I am not an Orthodox but I am from Romania so I celebrate the same day the orthodox does. Is not important when we celebrate but its important to know what we celebrate, themeaning of the feast!
Now, what is Palm Sunday?
Well, Palm Sunday commemorates the entrance of Jesus into Jerusalem
(Matthew 21:1-9). Palm Sunday is the Sunday before Easter that begins the Holy Week. As Jesus rode a donkey into the town of Jerusalem a large crowd laid palm branches and their cloaks on the road, and the crowd of disciples began joyfully to praise God in loud voices ”Blessed is the king who comes in the name of the Lord”
”Peace in heaven and glory in the highest”. I wish I was there to praise Jesus!
The HOLY WEEK
Sunday – Commemorates the entrance of Jesus into Jerusalem
Thursday – Jesus was arrested
Friday – His crucifixion
Jesus is the son of Good, he was born in Bethlehem, his earthly parents are Mary and Joseph.
God sent His only Child to die for us so that whoever believes in him to have eternal life, so that we can be with Him in the heaven.
Let’s just remember the meaning of Christ Resurrection!
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