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What is BREAST IRONING?

6th Jun 2020 crinamorpho

I wanna talk today about this subject as I find it really sad and violates the rights of the children (girls). That girl goes to a trauma, her self esteem is shaking badly.

BREAST IRONING – It’s a traditional practice whereby the breasts of a girl are flattered with tools like heated objects( spatulas, stones, hammers) to try to make them stop developing or disappear.

Usually happens in the villages, and it’s mostly done by the female members of the family, by an auntie, grandmother, eldest sister.

Some women whose breasts were ”ironed” have said they had trouble producing milk and breastfeeding their children.

Mothers in Cameroon thinks that by this practice girls will look less sexually attractive to men and keeping them in school for longer. (global citizen.org)

According to UNICEF, 38% of the children in Cameroon are married before they turn 18th. and 20% of them drop out of school after getting pregnant.

The practice is more common is West and Central Africa, yet has no borders, it occurs all over the world and has migrated with people and culture in the UK.

I can only imagine what is in their mind, what emotions they have, sure there is fear, pain, trauma, sadness, and so on.

It’s thought that about 1000 girls across the UK have been subjected to the practice. BREAST IRONING is child abuse!

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How to explain COVID-19 to kids

5th Jun 2020 crinamorpho

COVID-19 took many lives and created panic, fear and sadness.

But do not tell your kid that.

If the children do not ask about the virus, do not push it. But I know some children are really curios, and they might wonder in the morning why you not take them to school, or playdates?

Now is the moment to talk about the different types of virus, and why they have to stay away from other family members, friends, neighbours for a while. Children have the capacity to understand and to absorb information from adults more than we can imagine.

I really recommend you to download this book, which I think is free to download (https://phoebemorriscreative.com/superfelix) reading this book is a good way of starting talking about these strange times we live.

Also teach them simple ways to be safe, like washing hand for more than 20 seconds, the time it takes to sing ”HAPPY BIRTHDAY” twice.

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Children without parental care

30th May 2020 crinamorpho

There is so much to write and say about this subject. It’s really sad to see children exposed to harm, abuse. Today we gonna focus on children without parental care.

Children without parental care are exposed to many risks, neglect, all types of abuse, and also large numbers of children end up in institutional care.

In 2008, in Central and Eastern Europe some 1.3 million children lived in public care; just under half of these lived in large-scale residential care facilities or boarding schools (UNICEF, At home or in a home, 2011). In the Middle East and Africa, over 300,000 children are estimated to live in residential care (UNICEF 2009 Progress for children).

There are many reasons why children are left without parents:

Natural death

The parents went to work abroad

They can’t afford raising them

Divorce, sickness

Abuse of drugs, alcohol

Can you think of other reasons, comment below!

Few days ago I’ve seen a documentary about children without parental care in China. They’ve estimated that over 60 million of children have no parents!

A child said ”Everyone has a Mom and Dad, but I do not, at the end of every semester when the school asks for our parents feedback, I do not have anyone to wright the comments, as my grandparents can’t write or read. I often feel envious when I see children with their parents on the street”.

Are these kids condemned to a life without parental love, harm, neglect, exploitation, sadness and so on?

I think we all should do something for them, to be there physically or by supporting the people which are ready to change a life!

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Depresia la copii si adolescenti

28th May 2020 crinamorpho

Copiii sunt cei care ne dau energie, ne fac zilele mai frumose cu zâmbetul lor molipsitor, ce facem, însă, când toate acestea dispar și sunt înlocuite cu tristețe, iritabilitate, dificultate de a se concentra, îngrijorare?

Depresia nu doar ca afectează adulții, dar poate afecta copiii și adolescenți, un lucru foarte imporrtant este să înțelegem și să fim alerți

Când aveam 14 ani am fost depresivă, pentru aproximativ un an. Schimbările din viața mea au jucat un rol puternic în a dezvolta nesuferita depresie. Începusem liceul așa că m-am mutat la oraș, părinții s-au despărțit, tata a devenit un alcoolic, am rămas fără locuință. Cu toate că aveam 2-3 oameni apropiati, nu m-am simțit ( pe atunci) destul de familiara cu ei încât să le spun despre simptomele mele.

Cum să îți dai seama dacă copilul sau adolescentul suferă de depresie?

Somnul și alimentația pot fi influențate, doarme mai puțin, petrece mult timp în pat.

Energia scade, activitățile pe care le făcea înainte, acum i se par inutile și refuză să se mai întâlnească cu prietenii.

Refuză să meargă la școală, performanțele școlare scad

Stima de sine scăzută

Copiii mai mari si adolescentii, pot avea comportamente problematice, intra in dificultati la scoala, sunt negativi, morocanosi, irascibili, iritabili, se simt neintelesi.

Uneori este dificil pentru părinți să identifice semnele depresiei, dar fiți atenți la ce vă transmite copilul, depresia nu este ceva ce se desfășoară pe 4-7 zile ci poate ține și 1 an. Discutați cu copilul, și găsiți ajutorul medical potrivit. Este așa de important pentru copii să aibă pe cineva de incredere, de partea lor, să-i iubească necondiționat și să le ofere tot ce este mai bun.

Depression in children and teenagers
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Depression in children and teenagers

26th May 2020 crinamorpho

Depression does not only affect adults. Children and teenagers can get depressed too, same like adults, the important thing is to understand and to be aware of that.

I can say about myself that when I was 14 years old I felt really depressed for about a year, there was some changes in my life I had to embrace. I did not knew that was depression but I can identify it now by the symptoms I experienced.

Here are some examples of depression I also experienced

Signs of depression in teenagers

sadness, or a low mood that does not go away
being irritable or grumpy all the time
not being interested in things they used to enjoy
feeling tired and exhausted a lot of the time
refusing to eat, shower themselves or clean their room
Aggressive
Refusing to go to school; look at the changes in performances at school

Sometimes is tricky for parents to identify the signs of depression, but if you see any changes in your child just talk with and find the right help, is important for kids to have someone on their side. Like I had no one to help me, even though there was my teachers, social worker, some friends, but I still felt alone and discouraged. Dad became an alcoholic and my Mamma left the home, and I started the High School with no support from parents, God, is so hard and depressive. But you, yes you the one who reads this post you can help a child by showing support.

Let’s talk about young children, it’s hard to hear for them words like ( I am angry, upset, sad, you know, words that describes feelings). But you can see changes in their behaviour, in this way they telling you that something might be wrong and they are feeling depressed.

Signs of depression for 3-5 years old

They might not be interested in the activities
They might have problems sleeping
irritable ;social withdrawal
decreased appetite

If you’re a believer in God, you know that praying is weapon we can use all the time! Pray for your child and know that every person can go through depression, but God is there to help and He knows our problems!

ISAIAH 41:10 DEUTERONOMY 31:8

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FAITH. LOVE. HOPE

26th May 2020 crinamorpho

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FAITH- To have faith in someone or something is like we can rest and trust in someone or something.

Do we have doubts about the person we trust?

Well, depends, isn’t it?

Having faith in people is good. Myself for example, I had a lot of faith and trust in some people while enrolling to High School. I had started a new chapter in my life with the left foot, my parents decided to divorce, dad became an alcoholic and lived on the streets. So I had to move to dorm in college and have faith in some people I knew, they told me they will support, help and encourage me during my 4 years of college. This is trust and faith.

Through these years my faith wasn’t wrong, these people helped me out and I finished the college.

Faith in God is different than faith in people. If we…

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THANK YOU!

25th May 2020 crinamorpho

You are amazing!

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Physical development

25th May 2020 crinamorpho

Physical development is an important area of child development that includes children’s physical growth.

Physical activity is vital from birth and develops not only the body, but minds and emotions too.

P.D. involves providing opportunities for young children to be active and interactive; and to develop their co-ordination, control and movement. Children must also be helped to understand the importance of physical activity, and to make healthy choices in relation to food (eyfs).

The department of Health says, children should have at least 3 hours of physical activity, spread out over a day. This doesn’t mean three hours of planned activities, as every movement a child makes, is included, and they move a lot.

Physical Play allows children to understand why being physical and moving around is good for health.

P.P. can help children develop confidence, social interaction with their peers, friendship, control and balance, and also allows children to discover their own bodies ( sweating, redness, fast heart beat, fast breathing, tiredness).

For babies (children under 2) physical activity consists of playing and rolling, they can reach the objects, pull. hold, push.These experiences help use muscles and develop motor skills.

How to introduce P.D to children?

Gross Motor Activities – Talk about the fun of skipping, jumping, climbing, running, rolling. These will help the child to be active during the day. Obesity is a main problem in our days, so keep ypur child involved and active in different activities which promote Physical health.

Fine Motor Activities Give the child opportunity to enjoy these activities; cutting, drawing, holding, pressing, twisting, threading.

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T-SHIRT FAITH.LOVE.HOPE

23rd May 202023rd May 2020 crinamorpho

I used to raise funds around Christmas time for poor children in Romania, but I wanna do more for them, like they need food every day, not just in December, right?

One of the goals, when I create the blog was (and still is) to help poor children, to raise a concern and to gather people around the same subject, I know and believe that a team can do better than one person. Together let’s feed kids in poverty.

T-shirt FAITH. LOVE. HOPE

T-SHIRT made from 100% cotton. Good quality! Perfect to be a GIFT. Available sizes XS, S, M 25% is donated to poor children in Roumania, we will buy food for them, pictures to come!

£25.00

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KIDS AND THEIR TOYS

23rd May 2020 crinamorpho

When I was a child, I used to like playing with the dolls, but my favourite activities were outdoor with my friends, we used to play a lot of pretend play, my favourite game was to be a reporter, and a saleswoman (girl). I had a lot of money (leafs). We didn’t had many toys as my family was struggling financially. But I am not upset though.

Now let’s talk about the hundreds of toys kids have in these days…can we count it, if you are a parent, just try to count your children’s toys. How many, too many?

Well, I work in a nursery and our kids have a lot of toys too, but sometimes I have observed that they just do wanna play with the toys, but instead they find a cup, stick, spoon, a leaf more interesting.

I know you love your child so much and you want to make them happy, and sometimes it’s easy to make the kids happy, just by buying a toy, but that joy lasts an hour or less. I was an AU PAIR for a family with a 5 years old boy, they were wealthy and they bought a lot of toys for that child, every week there was a brand new toy, Lego, in his hands, do you know how long that child played with the toy, Lego? 1 day, and that was it. The parents spent hundreds of £ practically for a moment of ”new toy happiness”.

Let’s imagine we going in the playroom now, what can you see? Lego everywhere, toys spread all over the floor?

Now is the moment to CLEAN that room. Ask your child what toys are his favourites and which ones he wants to donate to poor children, is the perfect time to teach the child about compassion, giving, sharing. So the ones he/she can give up just donate it and keep the ones they want to play with.

Fewer toys can encourage more creative and imaginative play. When children have fewer toys, they find ways to use them in creative way. Quality and fewer toys are the solution for that messy playroom.

Surveys have shown that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think their child plays with just 12 favourites on a daily basis.

Toys are really good, it helps with their development. But what if instead of buying a new toy we propose to the child an outdoor activity?

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How does living in poverty affect a child?

20th May 2020 crinamorpho

What is poverty, how is like to live all your childhood in the poverty, what opportunities has a person once reached the adulthood, what can we do to help poor children?

Poverty is a state condition in which a person or community lack the financial resources and essentials for a minimum standard of living. Poverty means that the income level from employment is so low that basic human needs can’t be met. Poverty-stricken people and families might go without proper housing, clean water, electricity, food, medical attention, and so on.

Living in poverty like a child is really sad, they might have a sense of hopeless about their future than their more affluent peers. Low income, poor quality housing, debt put children’s mental health at risk.

Imagine the child wakes up in the morning, in a tiny house with no running water, heating, bathroom, electricity, kitchen, no food in the fridge. Just a small room, 1 bed, 1 stove, and nothing else, but that child is preparing to go to school with no breakfast, uniform or not knowing when the next meal comes from. Isn’t this sad? I know people living like this, I used to live similar conditions, but God had his plans for me and my family.

Living in poverty can effect a child in all areas like education, health, personal development. If the child doesn’t have the luck of having good parents, like the ones who understand the importance of education, that child most probably will drop out the school,so the child needs someone who is ready to help him, encourage and send him to school. I have seen in many poor communities this kids of problem, kids dropping out the school and getting married (early marriage), a child which is 13 can give up to school and form a family, so the poverty circle never ends. This is one of the reasons I want to raise a concern about it. The power of example in this communities is strong, children thinks that is normal and they should do the same like others.

Children having children is blossoming,once this, many more problems comes like child abuse, domestic violence, poverty.

Sometimes in these communities comes people ready to help, improve their conditions and give opportunities, some families are ready and open for it, some are not interested. But if you can save 1 child from 100, for me is like gold, means a lot.

I am trying my best to be able, in the future to help poor children, they need a hand of help, they need someone who cares about them. Helping a child to go to school, or to feed, improve living conditions is like saving a life.

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How does childhood trauma affect adulthood

18th May 202013th Feb 2021 crinamorpho

About this subject I can talk, write a lot. I can relate to it. My parents used to neglect us sometimes, neglecting is a trauma. But shall we let the trauma affect our lives? I did not, I understood my parents actions.

When you are a child, the parents are the ones that should raise your in a healthy, caring, loving way. But what can a child do if the parent, carers, exposes him/her to some forms of abuse, trauma? Well, here comes the adults which are in contact with the child, they should be the heroes in cases of abuse (social workers, health visitor, teachers, etc).

Childhood trauma affects self image – According to psychology today, one of the most devastating impacts of childhood trauma is the effect it has on self-image. Adults who experienced significant trauma as children are more likely to develop a pattern of victimised thinking. Adopting this ideology is incredibly dangerous, as the way people perceive themselves impacts their words, choices, careers, opportunities and relationships. Individuals who genuinely think the world is out to get them will inevitably attract situations and people who reinforce these beliefs, regardless of how incorrect they may be.

I am thinking about the children who lived in a orphanage, their self esteem is so low. I used to work with kids in orphanages and they had some sad stories about the way they were treat there. Some of them experienced forms of abuse. I can just imagine while in adulthood they might have the same low self esteem or their lives to be totally changed in good. God can heal us of all our past, bad experiences and help us forgive and understand peoples actions towards us.

Their are 4 types of abuse ( physical, sexual, emotional, neglect). Some kids experience this types of abuse, and usually happens in family, but family should be LOVE, isn’t it?

If you experienced trauma, abuse in your childhood and now you have anxiety, depression, feel like worthless, just give all to God and HE is ready to heal and love you unconditionally.

If you are a parent, love your kids and treat them with care, compassion, you have to power to model the child today for tomorrow’s adulthood.

BE KIND!

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