Being Amelia’s mother it’s a blessing! But let me tell you that I have dark circle around my eyes. I am sleep-deprived!
She is teething and using my breasts as a dummy during the night, or wakes up crying 5-10 minutes and then back to sleep.
Oh, yes, I am trying to wean her off but takes time.
We are in 2024 not 1995 when my inexperienced mother listened to a “witch” neighbour to apply some chilli powder around her breast to wean me off. My mother stated that my mouth was swollen and I cried all night long, well what would she expect!?
Amelia is just fine, playing while myself is sitting and wishing for 2 more hours of sleep.
Wait, are you wondering why I am not calling a family member to look after her while I rest? Good joke, there’s no one, apart from me and her Dad!
All her so-called family is in Romania, but even if we were in Romania I don’t see anyone coming to help, or maybe one of my sisters 🤔…
Some parents were blessed with childcare for free and others with this statement “Please pay your childcare fees by the 10th of this month 60% of your salary!”
With the rest of the 40% pay half of your rent, and welcome to the UK!
Amelia will be starting nursery in 1 week. Blessings and tears surely are about to happen 🙏
Parenting is all about loving unconditionally, waking up at 2 AM, paying nursery fees, wishing for 2 more hours of sleep when you know the Genie is blocked in the teapot 🫖 and drinking 5 coffees a day to keep that motivation and so much more.
The year 2023 was a blessing to me as a Mommy to Amelia Started in early January to be a 24/7 Mommy and it was tough! Why, you may wonder, well not having anyone (apart from my husband) to support, and comfort you when the baby is sick, colicky is though, overwhelming!
Wished I had a friend, mom, or mother-in-law to at least tell me “Hey, let me hold her for 5 minutes, this shall pass too”.
My husband did all he knew and felt was responsible in that moment but having a woman support you as a new mom must be a blessing!
I learnt a lot this year, how to be more patient, resilient, emotionally stable, and organised as a Mommy while taking care of my home and family. I did it! In a week Amelia is turning 1.
Now, at the end of 2023, I can only be thankful for becoming a Mother.
Thank you as well for your support towards our families from Budila. 41 kids and 12 families had a splendid ✨️ Christmas 🎄
A phobia is an extreme fear of something or a situation.
This is a complex phobia that can be developed after the adolescence period. We also call this ”social anxiety”.
Social phobia makes the person feel anxious when they have to be in contact with other people. They might be frightened that other people are going to criticise them or that they will do something embarassing.
Social phobia can be about only one social activity like speaking to group, called public speaking. This is common known as stage fright and can result in vomiting and may render the person literally speechless and unable to performe.
Many people are stuck in a bubble 🫧 not progressing in doing what they want/love to do because of not having the necessary tools to get out of their bubble. But what is that God wants us to do, stay there and moan? I think God wants us to burst the bubble and blossom 🌸. Do what we can with what we have, with faith 🙏 in Him.
Please support my fundraising for mom and little ones. They been kicked out from Mom’s boyfriend house recently. I am supporting them with all I can, but always a blessing to have others help too.
This is the link. If you would like to share or support it’s a huge THANK YOU!
Being a parent comes with lots of responsibilities, worries, unanswered questions, challenges, headaches BUT the blessing is way greater than the 2 minutes of headache.
My baby loves playing with food, especially fruits 🍉 many parents will choose not to fulfil their wish but take the little joy away.
I know, playing with food can be categorised as waste of goods but I found a way not to. Here it is, let them be the way you want, you lead them.
Playing with the food can be beneficial for them, the texture, smell, taste, hand eye coordination is important and it’s happening at the same time they having fun.
Amelia had fun with the watermelon (rind) think is called.
Aflându-mă în această poziție în urmă cu câteva luni căutam pe net răspunsuri pentru diverse întrebări, gânduri ce nu mi dădeau pace la fiecare lucru nou pe care-l experimentam ca mamă.
Azi, după 6 luni cu Amelia sunt mult mai relaxată, învăț să nu mă agit, îngrijorez dacă Amelia nu a plâns de o oră (exemplu).
Fiind mamă nouă vine la pachet cu o multitudine de ”surprize” plăcute sau mai puțin plăcute…pe care le vom descoperii pe parcurs.
Ai dat naștere unui om, Felicitări! Un dar divin!
După plecarea de la maternitate te lovește realitatea care se aseamănă cu un carusel care te duce sus dar te coboară în grabă cu un mix de emoții pe care trebuie să le controlezi și cu care să te înveți pas cu pas. Totul se schimbă, pare schimbat, nu-i așa?
Acasă în primele zile pari un pic dată peste cap, nu știi cum, ce , de unde să începi?! . STOP! Cel mai important este acum să te calmezi și toată concentrarea să fie pe bebe si tu, voi sunteți miezul, copilul se bazează pe tine cu toate nevoile lui.
Îți recomand ca în primele zile să nu ai musafiri sau casa plină de oameni, o să îți fie dificil oricum să duci la capăt treburile casnice dar mai ales lungile discuții, gălăgia, și verișoara* cea plină de energie care ține bebele în brațe cu orele în timp ce servește cafeluța.
*a se înlocui verișoara cu oricine din rudele tale se aseamănă.
În primele săptămâni, zonele tale intime au nevoie de vindecare și îngrijire cu atenție, după cum ne îndeamnă și multi mum. com
”În timpul nașterii, până la 9 din 10 femei care devin mame pentru prima dată suferă rupturi ale perineului sau au o epiziotomie, o tăietură făcută de un profesionist în timpul nașterii vaginale pentru a face mai mult spațiu pentru copil. Unele incizii sunt mici și afectează numai pielea, în timp ce altele ar putea necesita cusături și pot afecta și mușchiul perineului. Tăieturile sau rupturile din zona perineală pot face pielea sensibilă la atingere și pot creea senzație de usturime la urinare. Chiar dacă nu apar rupturi sau nu aveți o epiziotomie, probabil că veți simți dureri după naștere în zona perineului și a vaginului. De asemenea, corpul dumneavoastră va scăpa de sângele și țesutul din uter care nu mai sunt necesare. Această sângerare se numește lohie și este de obicei abundentă, de un roșu aprins în primele câteva zile, înainte de a se dilua și a dispărea complet în câteva săptămâni”.
Bebe depinde de tine, mami. Iar tu cu siguranță ai nevoie de sprijinul, suportul, înțelegerea partenerului tău.
Doar voi contati. Bucura-te de fiecare zi cu bebele tău. Fotografiază bebele de fiecare dată când ai ocazia, plângi dacă așa simți, mănâncă ciocolata, pe toată fară să te acuzi. Nu trebui să răspunzi mesajelor de ”felicitări” azi, poți răspunde in orice moment te simți pregătită.
Oh, wait, what else… feels like I forgot to pack something! This is what I have been asking and checking weeks before actually flying out with our baby Amelia. Being a first-time parent comes with lots and thousands of worries/minutes, especially when travelling. We’ve visited our families, friends in Romania for 13 long and tiring days. Baby Amelia was the main character on this holiday, treated like a princess by her grandma, uncles, aunts, cousins, godmother/godfather, our friends, and lots of ‘tanti de la țară’ grannies ( Grandma’s friends). Amelia had her moments when she was happy going from one person to another, but towards the end of the holiday she’s had enough, didn’t want to go to someone else apart from Mommy and Daddy, which was sad for Grandma. I like being on time when a time is set for a meeting, it doesn’t matter if it’s a friend or a stranger, BUT this holiday I had to break this rule as Amelia was falling asleep or pooing at the ‘wrong time’. With a child you have 99 per cent to be late, that’s what I have learnt this holiday. Amelia did amazing flying for the first time; smiling, being curious about what happens around her, grabbing and pulling everything it came to her hand… I found it quite difficult to change her on the aeroplane because the change table/space is cramped! Oh, she managed to have a big explosion exactly when we landed and of course, the bathrooms were locked…so good luck to me trying to cover her not to stain my clothes, the smell was… I can’t describe it! In conclusion, this holiday was full of surprises and different. Our next holiday will b in 2 months, going to Greece!
CRINAMORPHO 