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Family time

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In the last year, we have spent less time with our relatives due to a global pandemic that is still affecting us.

But, some parents spent much more time with their children at home. Dealing with homework, managing behaviours, and getting to know more about their children, like-dislike and likes.

The global pandemic has allowed some people to spend more time with their children, which is a ”+” for both parties.

Spending time with family is such an important thing to do. Sure your children will appreciate it,

Do you want to know some benefits of spending quality time with your family?

  1. Increases self-esteem
  2. Strengthen family bond
  3. They feel cared for, loved, listened to
  4. Can help the child on his/her academic plan (academic performance)
  5. Reduces anxiety, worries
  6. It helps the child communicate better and be a good friend.
  7. It’s not just a plus for children but also for you as a parent. You will feel much happier, fewer worries, better communication with children for future issues, problem.

 Spend time with your family as we do not live eternal. Cherish the time you got with your family!

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Diverse people sharing one planet

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Diverse people. One planet

When a child is born with different conditions, the parents love the child with all their heart! That’s how it should be.
We have to understand that people do not choose their parents, race, country to be born in, disabilities or health. Then why a person discriminates against another person?
Special children are truly special in a positive way.

They are born with a condition they haven’t chosen. We must accept them, understand, love them and treat everyone with kindness and care.
We all came across diverse people in our lifetime, and we will still come across them. Diversity is such a gift from God. It’s like the same gift but wrapped in a different paper with ribbon, some without, other presents are wrapped in blue paper, or yellow and so on.

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Why it’s good to talk about tough topics with children

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Talking about tough topics with their child/ren looks like a difficult job for some parents. They prefer not to discuss and keep it secret or delay in discussing tough themes with children. Depending on the topic, some parents believe it’s for child’s good not to know about different topics.

Tough topics include death, illness, divorce, adoption, sex.

Depending on the child’s age there are different approaches to talk. At every age, children have different questions, they are curious about the world around them, so why shouldn’t we answer them?

You know the famous children’s questions, ”where do babies come from”? My parents used to say that babies are brought by storks.
So, every time seeing a stork, I wonder which new family received the baby that day, or I will look at the bird and ask myself ”where is the baby”? Such a lie and a crazy way of explaining the meaning of a new life.

There are a lot of wonderful and inteligent ways of explaining to your 5 years old child where do babies come from. Explain them with the right words, do not give them false information!

If you can’t talk about a topic then let others do it. But it doesn’t mean that children are not capable of knowing or understanding. Do not keep it secret until you finalise the divorce and then let them know, they will feel lied to, betrayed.

Tough topics were asked one by you, me and other adults. Give the right answer and always provide the right support for your child/ren

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Teaching children to be grateful

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Start from an early age to teach your child/ren the art of appreciation and gratefulness

Sometimes, children do not understand (depending on age) that to have 4, 5 boxes of toys in the lounge, someone has to work to afford those toys, they aren’t falling from the sky nor a magic formula will bring stuff for us. So we have to explain, teach our children the art of being grateful, thankful with what they have and not asking every day for a robot, doll, Lego and so on

I have witnessed some parents bribing their child with a new expensive toy every time they wanted to go out on a Saturday night, they will say
”If you go to sleep now and behave,m tomorrow we will buy you a new toy” the child is snoring so off they went. Tell me to know, will the child appreciate the toys, or will she/he ever play with that toy?

Start by teaching them to say the magic words ”Thank you and please” Be a role model for them. Treat everyone with kindness.

Talk with children about sharing. Observe the child at a play date, is he/she happy sharing the toys?

What if you ask the children to pack up some toys they do not want and then take them to the children home or the poor family you know. Now is the time for the child to understand the art of gratefulness.

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De ce este important să ne exprimăm deschis afecţiunea faţă de copii?

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De ceva timp mă tot gândesc la cat de importanta este afecțiunea pentru copil. Părinții joacă un rol foarte important în a dezvolta emoțional copilul.

Cred ca cel mai important este ca un copil să experimenteze, să crească într-un mediu în care iubirea necondiționată îi este oferită.

Știu familii care își exprimă afecțiunea foarte des, alții foarte rar, dar de asemenea știu și familii care nu zic copilului TE IUBESC niciodată!

De ce este important să nu fim zgârciți în a arăta afecțiunea față de copil?

  1. Stabilește o bază a conexiunii și relației dintre părinte-copil.
  2. Motivează copilul și îl face să se simtă mândru, plin de bucurie
  3. Știu că sunt prețuiți și iubiți
  4. Își poate exprima emoțiile mult mai usor, etc.
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OVER-PARENTING

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Here is a definition of overparenting – too much involvement by parents in the lives of their children, so that they try to help with or control everything that happens to the child: over-parenting can lead to anxiety and depression in young people.

Usually, over-parenting happens in families with one child or with the first child when parents are trying desperately to raise a perfect child which eventually will become the perfect adult, which word ”perfect” doesn’t exist!

By the age of 2, some children can read, write, cook, swim, drive, start up a business, and paint the walls not with poo but paint. I am exaggerating and sarcastic now. 

Over-parenting or tiger parenting comes in many forms and many actions done by the parents thinking that they are protecting and raising a healthy child, when in fact, they give no chance to that child to decide without their influential. Family Studies has found that over-parented children show less autonomy, competence and ability to relate to others as teens, which can result in depression and decreased overall life satisfaction.

Children deserve a childhood with no unnecessary restrictions from an over-parenting parent!

Relax, take a deep breath and re-think your parenting style!

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Cum îmi învăț copilul să aprecieze ceea ce are?

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Cred cu tărie că sunt mulți părinți care au observat la un moment dat cum copilul lor nu apreciază ceea ce au. Cu căt le cumpără și oferă mai multe cu atât disprețuiesc ceea ce au.

Primul pas este chiar acesta, de a conștientiza atitudinea copilului tău și a recunoaște că nu este corectă.

De obicei găsim atitudini nemulțumitoare in familiile cu o stare financiară peste medie, părinții care oferă totul pe tavă copiilor lor fără a-i învăța arta aprecierii.

Cum putem schimba situatia?

  1. Tu ești modelul copilului. Folosește cât mai des ”MULȚUMESC, TE ROG”.
  2. Comunicarea ( în funcție de vârstă) ieri ai cumpărat o jucărie scumpă, azi îți cere una, tu ce faci îi cumperi sau comunici cu el/ea situația? Cumpărând ceea ce vrea copilul la fiecare reclamă văzută, sau shopping nu facem decât să instalăm disprețuirea față de valoarea lucrurilor deja avute. Oricum copilul se plictisește de jucărie cam după 10 minute, și apoi se pune praful pe ia.
  3. Vorbim copiilor despre empatie, mulțumire, dărnicie, generozitate și le amintim cu unii copii nu au aproape ce mânca iar ei au totul în fiecare zi.
  4. Fiți confidenți în a spune ”NU” copiilor. Ei vor cere jucării, bomboane, jocuri video, poate la fiecare oră vin cu cereri crezând că li se cuvine totul și orice dorință li se împlinește ca atunci când lui Aladdin i se îndeplinea orice dorință de către Duhul din lampă. DAR ce se va întâmpla peste 20 de ani când copilul acum adult înfruntă realitatea din societate? Aaaa am înțeles, o să fie CEO la firma familiei, dar care o să-i fie atitudinea față de bieți angajații?

Un copil mulțumitor și plin de bunătate va fi un adult responsabil și plin de generozitate!

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HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY!

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Beautiful souls, amazing and wonderful women, you are precious!
We are precious every day, hour, minute and second.
Reading through thehistory of women’s day, I have noticed the greatest courage, determination, beautiful faces fighting together for their rights, our future.
Here are some bible verses for you. Be wise. Be smart.
The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things.
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.