Passionate about helping children living in poverty. I am a children's book author & social worker. Proverbs 16:24
Author: crinamorpho
I am deeply passionate about working with vulnerable children, adults, and their families, with a focus on education, parenting, mental health, and wellbeing, as well as empowering people to begin their own personal journeys and find their path in life. I grew up in a disadvantaged family, and that experience shaped who I am today, giving me resilience and a strong sense of purpose in this amazing world we call home. My journey has led me to this path, and sharing my lived experiences is my way of encouraging others to believe in themselves and put their faith in God. Even in the darkest moments, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. This is what I am passionate about, and what I continue to build through my work and my writing.
Copiii sunt oglinda părințiilor, cel puțin până în primul an de școală, atunci vor imita colegi, profesori, practic vor avea de unde să aleagă pe cine să imite, din păcate vor imita și exemplele de AȘA NU. Dar aici este datoria părinților de a intervenii cu scopul de a corecta.
La vârsta de 2 ani, copilul va imita din acțiunile părințiilor. Cum ar fi:
Vorbesc la telefon, vor folosii obiecte pretinzând că este un telefon
Vor încerca să te ajute atunci când dai cu mopul
Ei imită deoarece vor sa fie exact ca părinți sau frații lor. Se uită la tine ca la un model de urmat, vor sa fie ca tine atunci când vor fi adulți.
Make sure your parenting style is supporting healthy growth and development because the way you interact with your child and how you act will influence your child’s future
There are four types of parenting styles:
Authoritarian
Authoritative
Permissive
Uninvolved
Authoritarian
The parents do not take the children’s feelings into consideration
Children’s point of view, comments, or desire is not valuable.
Lots of rules and children MUST follow them or get into trouble
They have high expectations for their children
When a child asks ”why” they respond ”because I said so”
Authoritative
Are responsive to the child emotional needs while still having high standards
They explain the reason behind the rule
Encourage independence
I think this style is the most popular one.
Permissive
They have rules but rarely are enforcing them
They tend to be very loving with their children, yet provide few guidelines/rules
They are much like a friend to their child, not a parent figure.
Uninvolved
They don’t ask your child about school or homework
They are neglectful, indifferent with the child/ren
Rarely know where your child is or who she is with
The parents are all different, raising their children with different styles.
Some have more than one style. Before judging a parent for their parenting style, we have to look into ”their history” or better said their past. If they were abused, neglected they might copy their parent’s, they take them as a model
There are also exceptions; we can’t guarantee or judge a future parent based on their past. If my parents were uninvolved, this doesn’t mean that I will be uninvolved, for sure I will not.
The uninvolved one is describing my parents after I turned 12-13, my parents changed their style, from authoritative to uninvolved style. If you are asking how come? My Dad became an alcoholic and Mom had enough and became absent.
PARENTS, be present, role model, if you need help with your parenting, ask for help.
Aș vrea să traduc PARENTING dar nu avem un cuvânt care să definească acest termen din engleza. Dar sunt ferm convinsă că multi dintre voi știți la ce mă refer, dacă nu, v-om descoperii împreună.
Parenting nu este despre copii, ci în folosul copiilor.
Parenting se referă la procesul de a crește copii și de a le asigura protecția și îngrijirea necesară pentru a se dezvolta în adulți responsabili.
Cu toții știm că nu există părinții perfecți, deoarece noi, oamenii nu suntem perfecți. Dar putem crește copii care să aibă un viitor cu mai puține griji.
Părinții așa mare influența asupra copiilor încât nici nu își dau seama. Acel copil imită cam 70% din viața de familie, practic așa cum ești tu, copilul este sau va fi. Am fost martora unei scene de familie zilele trecute, in Lidl, tatal și fiul la cumpărături, mama prin apel video îi dicta tatălui ce fel de unt să cumpere, tatăl nervos țipa la mama ”de care unt vrei tu, haide spune-mi odată, de ce nu ai venit tu să îti iei”.
Copilul avea în jur de 16-17 ani ea lângă tata încercă să se uite după unt, la un moment dat tatăl furios, țipă la el ”ce stai așa și te uiți, ești un prost și tu ca măta, ce unt vrei tu că încurc circulația aici”
Este un exemplu de AȘA NU, acel copil a trecut printr-o situație jenantă creată chiar de tatăl său. Copilul avea fața posomorâtă și cumva mi s-a făcut mila de el, dacă în public tatăl reacționează așa, cum este acasă? Oare ce exemplu v-a urma copilul lui?
Este foarte benefic să avem grija la stilul nostru părintesc, cum creștem copiii.
Săracia – Așa de multe de scris, zis, amintit, statistici, tabele, știri despre, dar fapte?
Sunt oameni la putere care ar putea schimba ceva, DAR ce fac ei ?
Dau din umeri, trec cu vederea, evită, sau pur si simplu nu-i interesează de soarta unor copii inocenți.
Eu am crescut într-o familie săracă și cunosc cauzele și efectele acestei probleme, înțeleg când un om mare (parinte) îmi spune ”nu am bani de mâncare pentru copii, nu am bani să i-au pastile pentru copil, nu am bani de pâine”.
Ușor pentru cei care au bani de pâine să judece părinții, nu i așa? DAR să știți că unii părinți fac tot posibilu, încearcă, se străduiesc dar nu au de unde să i-a acele resurse, trebuie să înțelegem că sărăcia este un proces în formă de cerc, se ia de la familie la familie, de la mama la fiică.
Dacă tu te naști într-un sat uitat de lume, comunitate săracă, prieteni si vecini care trăiesc cu 2 lei pe zi, atunci spunem tu, ce șanse de a fi un adult bogat ai?
Probabil din punct de vedere statistic ai 1%, sau mai puțin. Vei zice că educația te scoate din sărăcie, te poate scoate, dacă ai profesori, asistent social, mediator școlar, și alți oameni care cred în tine și le pasă de tine, vin să te viziteze când nu dai pe la școală 7 zile pentru că mama ta nu are bani să-ți cumpere papuci să mergi la școală. Dar credeti-mă în multe sate, nu interesează pe nimeni că un copil a abandonat școala.
De Craciun, am reușit, cu ajutorul spiridușilor să ajut o familie săracă ( vezi poza) practic acei copii nu aveau mâncare de Crăciun, când li s-au dat acele alimente, au zâmbit și mulțumit. Dar ce m-a mișcat cel mai mult este mezinul care strângea la piept niște cornuri cu ciocolată, le strângea de parcă era o comoară de prețuit. Ce copil nu iubește dulciurile?
Fiți mulțumitori cu ce aveți, și dăruiți dacă aveți. Fără a judeca, discrimina, schimbați un viitor al unui copil sărac, și practic ați schimbat o viață.
Some of us are stuck in the house, and I know that some of you are trying your best to keep the children busy, but not by giving them a gadget, or let them watch the TV all day long. You are a responsible parent.
Depending on the children’s age, you can try doing some of these indoor activities:
Karaoke, cause why not? Be careful to choose the right playlist.#
What are some benefits of singing at home?
It’s good for the mind, helps the memory, helps the child learn rhythm and rhyme. And you never know, the child might develop a new passion for the music.
Doing karaoke with children it’s a great way to bond; it’s good for the parents, siblings.
You can clearly say the mood change when you give that karaoke mic to the child.
2. Baking
I have always loved to bake biscuits, cookies with children, it’s my favourite activity.
Some of us are celebrating the CHRISTMAS, but I want you and me to remember the meaning of Christmas. What are we celebrating, truly? This year has been a challenging one. I think people prayed to God much more this year than in any other years. We are hating all that’s happening right now in the world. People have lost their family, friends, but much more the elderly are the ones that are suffering. I was watching a video about a lady that has lost her husband, she said ”we have been together for 70 years and he died in a homecare of Covid-19, so I couldn’t participate to the funeral, my heart is broken”. She cried and cried. I felt so sorry for her. This Christmas is going to be different, no doubt. All we have is the hope, faith that next year, we will celebrate together with our loved ones, we will give lots of hugs, kisses, and let our phone away while enjoying the family, friends. Now, what happened on Christmas day? JESUS was born, the one that saved us from hell, gave us eternal life. JESUS IS THE REASON FOR THE SEASON. Give him praise! God bless you, all!
I am saying finally because we have been planning our wedding since January 2020, before knowing that Coronovirus will change our plans.
First, we planned for May 2020, then 1 st of December and God blessed us with the day 12.12.2020, our special day happened yesterday!
How is it to be a wife? Well, I do not know yet, but I can say it’s a blessing from God. I lived in the same house with Daniel since June 2019, we had our ups and downs, BUT now I am feeling revealed as I am finally A WIFE with documents!
Unfortunately, our families weren’t able to attend (COVID), but we can’t wait to have them in for our wedding party in MAY 2021 back in our home country, ROMANIA. We are thankful for our friend that attended the wedding yesterday.
My challenge now is to change all my documents as I have changed my surname… wish me luck!
Each year we are inundated with offers, ads, and tha MALL is full, and nothing left behind, the shoppers goes crazy. Did you know that people died on their hunt to shop on BLACK FRIDAY?!
Originated in the USA, it has now been adopted by many countries, including UK, and of course, my home country, Romania.
What is BF?
Did you know that the term was initially associated with financial crisis, not sales shopping ( 24 September 1869)
The gold panic was caused by a conspiracy between 2 investors, FISK and GOULD. They formed the gold ring to corner the gold market and force up the price of that metal. The scandal took place during the Presidency of GRANT, whose policy was to sell gold in order to pay off the national debt, stabilize the dollar, and boost the economy. (Read more about the gold ring scandal).
Why is it called BF?
Well, there is an explanation that dates back to the 60’s when the Philadelphia Police Department named the phrase to describe the chaos made by the congestion of pedestrian, vehicle .
With all the shopping activity that takes place the Friday, after Thanksgiving, the day became one of the most profitable days of the year for the retailers and businesses. Now, the accountants use black colour to signify profit and red to indicate a loss, so there we have THE BLACK FRIDAY. A Christmas gift 🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄
Copiii sunt așa de inocenți, te iubesc fără prejudecări, îți zâmbesc în supermarket, pe strada, în parc.
Da, fiecare copil contează pentru mine, pentru noi, fără a ține cont de etnie, de familia de care aparține, dacă sunt bogați sau săraci, religia nu contează. Copilașii sunt prețioși în viața noastră.
Putem noi oare să judecăm un copil pe baza a ceea ce a făcut, sau ce crede familia sa?
Imaginează-ți cazul următor – Alex are 9 ani și provine dintr-o familie cu o stare financiară precară, merge la școală rareori, iar hainele lui mereu sunt murdare. Acum, ce face Doamna Profesoară? Din păcate în cele mai multe cazuri, nu o interesează, nu o deranjează că acel copil lipsește. Dar ce face asistentul social, practic stă la birou, înconjurat de documente. aEste un caz, în general, nu toții oamenii acționează la fel…
Cazul 2 – Maria are 7 ani, provine dintr-o familie bine-cunoscută din oraș, părinții au stare financiară destul de bună. Într-o zi nu apare la școală, de obicei Maria era acolo la ora 9, în prima bancă. Doamna profesoară sună părinții și se interesează de Maria. Cazuri diferite, acțiuni diferite.
De ce nu ne-am interesa de toții copii care lipsesc de la școală, sau care vin cu haine murdare? Pentru că unii oamenii judecă situația de bunăstare a familie, judecă copilu in funcție de FAMILIE!
Fiecare copil contează, niciodată nu vom știi cum un copil sărac v-a ajunge într-o funcție importantă, si sunt multe exemple. Doar da-ți o șansă unui copil și ve-ți vedea acel copil înflorind.
All over the Bible there are stories of men and women experiencing trials and tribulations. Some grumbled against God because of lack of water (Exodus 15:24), others worshipped God in trials and adversity (Job 1:20), others cried out to God in despair (Psalm 18:6). According to Scripture, PATIENCEis a virtue and a fruit of the Spirit, a sign of someone who trusts in God. According to 1 Samuel “lack of patience can cause you to miss blessings.”
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
PSALM 7:7-9 7 Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. 8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. 9 For those who are evil will be destroyed, but those who hope in the LORD will inherit the land.
It is believed gingerbread was first baked in Europe at the end of the 11th century when returning crusaders brought back the custom of spicy bread from the Middle East. Did you know that ginger has the property to preserve the bread? I remember when I was around 14-15 I have done my first gingerbread house, it did not look like a house though and keep in mind I wasn’t 6, 7 or 10 years old, but I remember it was fun. When you want to do the activity with your toddlers, keep in mind that it will be messy, so practically throw all your expectations out the window and just have fun with the little ones! First tip: Provide, buy more candies, sweets than you plan to use, you know why right? Well, the children try the candy first to be sure that is sweet, tasty or good enough to be attached to the house, one in their mouth one on the house… But make sure they do not exaggerate, or no sleep that night, their energy will go up. Second tip: Have the recipe, the making in your mind already as children lose their patience easy and quick, so to have their attention, the adult must know what’s next. Third tip: Be prepared for the mess afterwards. It gets messy doing the gingerbread, especially if you work with more than 2 children, depending on their age band you can require and receive help with tidying up.
CRINAMORPHO 