#children, #development

Keep them close by letting go

Last year I enrolled on a CPD course called Positive Parenting.
I recommend this course to anyone working with children, parents, carers, anyone who comes in contact with children.
It comes in handy now that in less than a week I will be on the road called ”parenting”

This is a lesson I read many times because I found myself and some friends caught in this ”story”.

Being too restrictive builds up resentment and can lead to rebellion- let go of them.

Helping our children make their own decisions and choices instead of telling them what to do it’s far more beneficial. Let them decide with guidance.

Of course, if a child is very young and in danger, we are not going to let them do something that would obviously be harmful, that’s why we are there to supervise, guide, teach them.

Help them develop independence, self worth and self confidence

When I was a child, my parents never taught us any self confidence or worth but a form of ”crazy” independence. Growing up I taught myself how to be confident, know my worth.

  • Ask for their opinion and show you value it by acting on what they say at least some of the time.
  • Encourage them to think for themselves, share opinions and options. This will help them to problem solve.
  • Help them feel included and and confident to contribute. This is essential for teaching them to value their opinions, self confidence and self worth,

Like I said, if you wanna expand your knowledge, skills do this course, it’s amazing how will make you remember of your childhood, your parenting styles or your parents tyoe of parenting.

home, moving house, Pregnancy

Moving home + Pregnancy contractions

I am 37 weeks pregnant, and we have just moved to a new home!!! Not a smart move but so needed.
Two days ago, we moved from a flat to a nice house (still renting it)

We decided to move as you all may know, we are expecting a blessing to be delivered in less than 2 weeks or sooner.
Moving is not fun when you are 37 weeks pregnant, lots of work has to be done, like cleaning, carrying in and out furniture, and sorting out the kitchen, bedrooms, and living room to make it all look like home.
That’s what we were doing yesterday when the contractions started while I was in Lidl to buy food. I thought that’s where I am giving birth, in Lidl!?

Hasn’t happened yet, came home and relaxed in a nice warm bath.
We still have to sort out a lot of things in our new home, before the baby comes. I will let my husband clean and sort out the rest of the staff while I sit and give indications, in the end, am the one pregnant 🙂

birthday

27

Pe 8 Decembrie am împlinit 27 de ani. Odată cu trecerea timpului realizăm cât de puțin înseamnă un cadou și ce mult contează un apel primit de ziua ta, cu o un sincer urat de ”LA MULTI ANI!”

Cu fiecare an ce trece devenim mult mai înțelepți, sau cel puțin așa ar fi ideal, renunțăm la vicii, ne pasă tot mai puțin de părerea celorlalți, ne focusăm pe familie, facem economii și plănuim vacanța mult dorită pe care v-om plătii cu banii munciți de noi.

27 sună bine pentru mine, cu multe schimbării în bine, scopuri de atins și rugăciunii de mulțumire.

Bible verse, christmas, God's blessings, reason or season

Philippians 4:13: I can do everything through him who gives me strength

Reminder for today.

This month can be challenging, stresfull and overwhelming.
Do not give up! celebrate the reason we are going to celebrate.
It can be stressful to keep up with work, buy that perfect Christmas present for someone, cleaning and decorate the house for your guests.
But you know what, take a minute, relax and repeat ”God gives me strength”. You are doing just fine!


This year I am very relaxed and chilled, do not have a Christmas tree, and my home is not that clean for guests (I am not going to have any)

Christmas cards and presents can wait until next year.
Soon my baby girl will be born, we are moving house in 2 weeks.

My goal is to celebrate the reason this year, together with my husband and our munchkin.
God bless you!

#romanian, romania

1 Decembrie 2022

La multi ani, România!

Țara noastră frumoasă, primitoare cu oameni simpli de la țară care încă păstrează tradiții vechi de sute de ani. Bunicile noastre care au rămas acasă, în țara noastră dragă, curând vor pune lemnele în sobă și vor coace cozonaci, cornulețe și plăcinte cu miros și gust de acasă, miros de copilărie…

Unirea de la 1 decembrie 1918 reprezintă Ziua Națională a României, celebrată anual ca zi națională din 1990. Sărbătoarea aniversează Marea Adunare Națională de la Alba Iulia și unirea provinciilor Basarabia, Bucovina ,Transilvania, Banat, Crișana, Maramureș și Sătmar cu Regatul României.

#children, safeguarding

Safeguarding children (UK)

I studied social work back in Romania, got my degree in 2017, but life brought me in the UK in 2018, so clearly I haven’t had a chance to practice in my country, unfortunately.

What I learnt about safeguarding children in Romania may or may not apply in one of the countries.

Safeguarding children it’s such an important act for all that comes in contact with our innocent children, keep an eye out to children’s behaviour, their communication and social interaction.

Every day I am reading my books, praying that after the maternity leave I can get a job to put this in practice( to safeguard as an professional) who cares.

Safeguarding is the action that is taken to promote the welfare of children and protect them from harm. Safeguarding means: protecting children from abuse and maltreatment. preventing harm to children’s health or development.

#development, be happy, do what you like and love, happiness

What makes you happy?


Did we forget what made us happy years ago, when we were kids!?


Let me give you one example from my childhood (there are many examples, I will try giving you one) Ice skating on the main street with my friends. We didn’t have much or been to our big city Ice Skating Ring, but I knew how to skate on our main street, where everyone was walking by, greeting and doing their Christmas shopping. Nice memories!
I still love Ice Skating!


What makes us happy as an adult living in these times?
Waking up in the morning to get to our jobs or on the salary day when are we trying to sort out the monthly spending?
Are we running after fame, money, career, diplomas, buying a big house in which we are most of the time worried about the next electricity bill (see living costs in 2022) thinking that once we have what we wished for we will be happy again?
I m not saying it’s a bad thing to have those, but let’s be honest, what makes us happy?
How can we increase our level of happiness and live a blessed and joyful life?


Take a minute and write a list of what makes you and your family happy.
A trip for 2 days?
Spending more time at your grandparent’s house?
Meeting with your old friends?
Going ice skating with your family?
Planning an exotic holiday?
Reading your bible, going to church this Sunday?
Cooking your partner’s favourite meal?
Buying the dress or shoes you wanted for a while now?
Giving a Christmas present to a family in need?
Or just having a coffee in the shopping centre?


What makes me happy is waking up early in the morning to drink my coffee. My husband gave me a good night kiss(he also gives one to my baby bump). Eating my favourite chocolate. Good news from my large family. Feeling my baby moving. Supporting my family when is needed and the list is not stopping here.

To to sum up…Enjoy the good coffee, have fun on your holiday, buy the dress– they are all good and fine and bring bright moments into our lives.


Do more of what makes you happy, and be less worried and stressed.

Be blessed!

#children

Insecurity

Insecurity is linked to mental health conditions such as narcissism, anxiety, paranoia

A person with high levels of insecurity may often experience a lack of confidence regarding many aspects of life. It may be difficult for that person to form lasting relationships or do their daily routine.

  • Insecurity can be based on recent failures
  • Social anxiety from being bullied or having critical parents can lead to insecurity.
  • Perfectionism not only can cause insecurity, but depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and chronic fatigue.

DEALING WITH INSECURITY

People who experience significant insecurities in daily life may attempt to overcome them by identifying the causes. For example, a man who dreads going to work because he feels he does not perform his daily tasks adequately may ask himself what led to that belief and attempt to identify ways in which he might become more positive and realistic about his own abilities (Fowler, C. J., Allen, J. G., Oldham, J. M., & Frueh, B. C. (2013).

What Does the Bible Say About Insecurity?

If we hope to get to the root of insecurity—which can be caused by attaching our self-worth and identity to the things of this world—then we first need to know the truth about our identity as a child of God. That way, our self-worth can be grounded in truth rather than in the enemy’s lies. 

1 Corinthians 10:13 tells us that God will not allow us to “be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

https://crinamorpho.wordpress.com/donation/